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These are the latest blog posts from our psychologists, counselors and therapists here at The Life Change Group. Please feel free to leave us a comment or email questions you might have via our Contact Us page. We hope you enjoy the content.

17 Feb 2024

Can Kissing Save Your Relationship?

What's in a Kiss? Today we're talking about one of the most popular topics I get in marriage counseling and couples therapy. Believe it or not, it's kissing. The simple act of locking lips seems to have everyone just head over heels with questions. What's the best way? What does it mean if he/she doesn't anymore? And my favorite recently "can kissing my partner more save my marriage?" It's a fair question. After all, the practice of kissing has been around for a LONG time. There are reports of kissing from as far back as ancient Mesopotamia and Egypt in 2500 BCE. Since then, oral hygiene, Hallmark Channel and entire days and traditions devoted to kissing (think Valentines Day, New…
Can Kissing Save Your Relationship?
What's the best thing to say after an argument with your partner?
17 Feb 2024

What's the best thing to say after an argument with your partner?

What to Say After an Argument Couples counseling is filled with disagreements and sometimes even heated exchanges. And this is the purpose of the therapy. It's a controlled environment where both partners have an opportunity to communicate out in the open and are urged and guided to listen to each other. But what happens back at home? After the next argument has ended, what should you say to your partner to help repair the relationship? I was thinking about this topic and found this lovely article on Fatherly.com, a online parenting site to "empower men to raise great kids and lead more fulfilling adult lives" (so their masthead claims). It's a great article and I wanted to comment on my…
17 Feb 2024

Why Do Couples Yell?

In the Beginning... Yelling is rarely the first scene. In fact, most relationships usually start with loving words and optimistic promises (they don't call it the "honeymoon period" for nothing), but it's not uncommon for situations and relationships to ebb, flow and spiral. Some studies indicate that as little as 3% of married couples say they never argue so there is a lot of arguing going in America's household. Yelling, however is a step above the average argument. It is a behavior that can surface in the heat of the moment, escalate rapidly and has the potential to inflict traumatic consequences on everyone involved. Knowing all of that, why do we still decide to yell at our partners? How Often…
Why Do Couples Yell?
What are the best phrases to use in an argument with your partner?
17 Feb 2024

What are the best phrases to use in an argument with your partner?

How to Argue with Your Partner Couples therapy often involves partners with differing viewpoints. Sometimes these points of view can be relatively minor and other times they are grand canyon sized - massive differences. Many times in session my couples argue. If you're married, you argue. It's as certain as the waves crashing into the shore. I've also found that there is a right way to argue with your special someone and a wrong way. But I ran across this article from CNBC.com recently that posed an interesting question - what are the best phrases to use in an argument with your partner? The story put forth six concepts that would help arguments reach better and ultimately more successful endings,…